Marriage: 18 Stories
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My husband and I would’ve been married 10 yrs this year. I lost my mother 3 yrs ago, & was devastated. I strayed from God and than my husband. I’ve lived in seclusion, isolation and withdrawal. Functioning became a daily battle. Depression got worse, and through it all didnt have any support, friendship, or love from my spouse. We had simply co-habitated. I got to the breaking point and attempted suicide prior to Christmas. I was told it was a miracle I survived. While in hospital my spouse filed for divorce and has taken my children from me. Somehow I was compelled to come back to church. The first sermon i heard was stuck in a rut. I’m not sure what it is, but I know there is a reason God brought me back in more than 1 way. I know God works miracle, I only wish somehow my spouse would hear this! Thank you for making me look at everything a little differently about myself, marriage and how God always has a plan for us even when we dont know what it is!
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This past weekend, as my husband and I sat waiting for the series “Stuck in a Rut” to begin, we discussed what a desperate state our marriage is in. We talked about how we just didn’t really know where to go from this point forward. Separation? Divorce?
We both sat in disbelief as we watched the opening skit. We saw two actors portraying a mirror image of our lives, saying the exact words we had so many times uttered… and we were astounded. When I pointed out to my husband that they even looked a little like us I saw him take notice. It was when I pointed out that they were even wearing the identical clothing that we both finally paused and thought, “Hmmm? Is this God’s way of getting our attention?” It’s amazing how something so little…almost unnoticeable forced us to at least take another look at our relationship.
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I am amazed. Simply, utterly, awesomely delighted in how God has renewed my life over the past year. My marriage is rescued from destruction! Renewing our vows last Sunday was perfect timing. I said “I do” to the Love of my life over 11 years ago. He appreciates things in me that no one else has ever even noticed. His drinking was NEVER in any way physically abusive. It was however, a way for the enemy to continually steal away my best friend from me. I purposed to not let his drinking destroy our marriage, or our family but the addiction wore away at me. Little by little, I began to lose respect. My only hope at times was to keep MY eyes on God and allow Him to mold my husband. Christmas 2009 was life changing for me! God gave back my marriage! He completely took away the need, desire, craving for alcohol! It’s Gone! I am amazed! ALL things are possible with God! Over the year of 2010 I watched my husband refuse drink after drink and witnessed our marriage sprout new life! Praise God!
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I was sure what went wrong with my 25-year marriage aside from most common problems of lack of communication, money, etc., was due to my lack of ability to control my thoughts; many of which Pastor George touched on today in service. Those things did play a big part. I was active in church, taught children’s church, played piano in Praise and Worship in a small town. Although my husband was not an active church member, when my children went to college I felt emptiness beyond compare. A person who seemingly had every element of every dream of mine and my children crossed my path; infidelity resulted along with a destructive force on some many levels. “If” I had only continued in faith of God’s Word! Ethan’s sermon this month hit home with me. I thought as I have for many years I wanted a husband but maybe I really just want a joyful, blessed life and if that includes a husband, the lessons I learn from this series will ultimately teach me the steps to succeed.
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Ive been married to my husband for approx 2 yrs. Pre-marriage I was an awful person, cheating, lies, hatred, selfishness, you name it, that was me. We started to attend COTM and got saved. A few months later I stumbled really hard and started cheating again. I tried to justify my actions with selfish excuses but started to really feel the Spirit tugging on my heart. One night I had a very vivid terrifying dream of the tribulation period and it was so awful it woke me up with chills straight to my core. I cried but couldn’t tell my husband about the dream. God was showing me where my actions would take me if I didn’t change, then the really heavy conviction came. I slowly started to come clean to my husband, little bits at a time. Now I’m fully clean. I truly believe because we found Christ together, my husband was able to love and forgive me. Since then Christ has totally rehabilitated me. I have removed any stumbling blocks and now we are stronger than ever! THANK YOU JESUS AND COTM!
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Too tough to ask for help. Tough guy background. Wasn’t used to praying. Just figured I could make it all work. Then got served divorce papers, moved into an apartment away from my 3 boys, found out I wasn’t quite as tough as I thought. On my knees in the middle of the floor, I asked God to please make things clear. If this door needs to be closed please don’t let there be any doubt in my mind. The next day, in the back of the church, the congregation got very quiet as services began, then, the back door opened…then slammed shut….as a beautiful little lady walked in late. Her 3 girls hand in hand. She was going through a tough divorce herself. We met. We married. Still learning and still praying. I thank God for her. I thank God for caring so much for me that he got personally involved in my life.
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After 2 failed marriages and 2 little kids to support…sometimes with child support and sometimes not…I decided I had to look to God to find and send me a husband. I am not a loner and I truly believed the Lord had someone in mind.
With that in mind I decided to enter into my ‘prayer closet’ (which happened to be my livingroom) and wait for the Holy Spirit to help intercede. “Lord, I have tried over and over to find a wonderful man to share my life and children with…I am failing miserably and so very much need your help.” I was feeling this burden deeply by now and couldn’t help crying. “I have 2 small children in need of a father figure and I need a husband to lean on when times get tough…I know you want what’s best for me and I am putting my trust in you Father to send my guy to me.”
He answered my prayer… a month or so later, I met this shy, sweet guy that was attending the school where I worked. We have been married now for 25 years! God DOES answer Prayers!!
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Last year my ex-wife walked out of our marriage of 4.5 years. This completely blind sided me as I didn’t see any of this coming and I was an emotional wreck having many sleepless nights crying out to God why is all of this happening. God gave me a vision through a dream I had to focus on him. I rededicated my life to Christ and he has blown me away with the emotional healing that has happened in my life over the past year. I came to a point where I was able to forgive and pray for my ex-wife for what she had done and I believe this was when I received incredible healing. Praying with the right intentions not expecting something but praying with a humbled heart knowing this pleases God. I came to last week’s service-Christ the Healer-seeing all of the people coming forward dealing with diseases and pain I was overcome with emotions and tears rolling down my face symphathizing with these people while at the same time being very thankful for the healing that has happened in my own body.
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My parents divorced when I was young and split up my siblings and I to live in different states. I got married soon out of high school and a few years later in 1992 my marriage ended and I was kicked out of a church due to it. I had so much anger of how a pastor would turn me away. I lived in the world and even survived a near fatal motorcycle accident. I went through another marriage based on not having a Godly foundation and losing our daughter three days after her birth. I have learned to be the Man that God wants me to be and I have learned so much from Pastor George’s teachings. I also have been praying for a Proverbs 31 woman; which God has recently brought into my life. I am so thankful that God has not and will not give up on me. He is always there to guide me and love me; even when I did not feel very lovable. I Love you Lord.
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“I just don’t love you anymore.”-were the shocking words from my wife of 3&1/2 years. Later that week, I learned of lies, received calls from her coworkers, stumbled on emails, photos-all the evidence stacked up; there was another guy. I gave her a choice. She chose him. I thought I had to stand for the marriage to be right with God; like I had 1 shot, 1 girl, that’s it. We’d been living in a big city just a few months. Had no close friends there, but God’s word comforted me. About that time, pastor of my church visited COTM, he told about the focus on kids & the applicable teaching. Something inside me knew to check it out, as well as I know my name. On a July 4th weekend, I bought a ticket & flew to Tulsa. I went to a Wed & Sat night service, & I knew; I’m moving. Hearing tapes of PWG teach on divorce & remarriage SET ME FREE. Now, I know I can get married & have a family someday. I’m so thankful God planted me here over 8 yrs ago, I’m plugged in & have closest friends I’ve ever had.
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In 2004, even though I was a “church going” Christian, I commited infidelity in my marriage. At that time we had been married for 4 years and had no children. I confessed to my wife and thank God she chose to forgive me and extend grace. We went to counseling and 6 years later, we have just celebrated 10 years of marriage last month and we have 2 children, our Son is 4 and our Daughter is just 3 weeks old. In the past year we both have went from just still being “church going” Christians to actually having personal, intimate, abiding relationships with Jesus and the transformation is beyond words. Today we have been blessed to be involved in allowing God to use our story to reach out to almost a dozen couples who in the last year faced the same transgressions as we did in 2004. We also got to share our story in May 2009 at a KXOJ concert in front of 3500 people and we know God spoke to some hearts that night. What the devil entended for Evil, God is using for his Glory now!
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In 2005 my husband and I had separated, due to the fact we had a 10 month old baby girl we decided to try to work things out. Things were never right between us, about 2 years ago he found a friend that read the word of God and attended COTM. Things changed, my husband slowly started turning into another man. He went out and bought a bible, and read it. He suddenly changed into not only a wonderful husband but the best father ever.We now attend at COTN ourselves, not as him an me but as a family!!!!
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I dont have much of a story. Basically I grew up in a christian home. My parents got divorced when I was 10 years old. When I was a teenager I pulled away from church and basically everything I had been taught. I got pregnant with my beautiful daughter when I was 16 and it broke my mother’s heart. I dropped out of school the summer before my senior year of high school when my daughter was born. I met my husband when I was 19 and he was not a christian! I stayed with him even though my heart told me not to. He, at sometimes, was emotionally abusive. Then I got pregnant with our son and he left me. We did get back togeteher eventually and then when our son was born we moved to Oklahoma. After about 8 months here my husband was saved! And I rededicated my life to Christ here at church on the move. We got married in 2006 and had had one more child in 2007. We are still attending Church on the Move. Our marriage gets stronger every day!
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I accepted Christ at a young age, but as a teenager I fell from God. By age 19 I had a child out of wedlock. Her father was not a Christian but we got married.
I allowed him to draw me even further from God. He was addicted to drugs, alcohol, and pornography and did not provide for his family. He became abusive. One night he threatened me at knife point. I cried out to God for the first time in years. God allowed me to escape.
I moved in with my parents. A few days after being back, I began praying again and seeking God. He led me to this scripture - Isaiah 54:4-8. I knew in my spirit that God would restore me.
I met Cliff and began attending COTM with him. When we got serious, I shared this scripture with him. I had marked it in my bible and realized that I met Cliff EXACTLY one year after I read it.
We have been married now for two years. Cliff is a wonderful provider and spiritual leader. God has been so faithful to his word to show compassion on me!
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It all started with one relationship where I was pressured physically to go beyond what I was comfortable. For the next 5 years, I would go from guy to guy finding myself getting physical earlier & earlier each time. I was terrified to be alone, and my flesh was out of control. I remember being scared of what the future held if I continued on the path I was on. I felt as though I couldn’t trust myself to be alone with men. My family and friends didn’t understand what I was going through. I felt so alone. A friend at work spoke of a purity class she went through, and I jumped at the chance to find out more. I signed up for the class; 2 months of intense homework and meetings. God helped me to triumph over the bondage of sexual sin. The class helped me overcome my fear of being alone, and rediscover how truly valuable I am in God’s eyes. A couple of months after the class I met my husband, the man I had always believed God for.
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Three years ago I was single turning 30 years old and wondering “why?” I wanted to be married so bad. I was always the bridesmaid, never the bride. I went on dates with many guys, but never for more than a few dates because I always new in my Spirit that they were not right for me.
Then three years ago, I met the most perfect man for my life. I saved my virginity for my marriage and also saved my first kiss for him too. I had in my mind come to the realization that my husband may not have done the same. However, when we came to the point in our relationship to discuss our past relationships my husband (age 32) informed me that he had not only saved his virginity for his wife, but had also saved his first kiss for his wife too. God gave me more than I could of ever imagined.
We are happily married now and just had a baby boy 4 months ago. So…to all the young single men and women who are maintaining your purity. Stand strong…hold to your conviction.
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Todays sermon reminded of a recent experience in the fiery furnace. In November of 2009 my wonderful wife of 20 years left me and moved away to live with an old boyfriend. My family and her’s, friends, acquaintances and especially me all thought our marriage was good. I was shocked, devastated and depressed. A minister friend told me to turn it over to God. I said I would. My step daughter scorned “Why don’t you practice what you’ve preached to me? Turn it over to God!” I said I would. That’s easier said than done. My despair continued until one night while staring at the TV having one of many “poor me” moments God hit me between the eyes with a velvet covered hammer. “When are you going to turn it over to me? I’m waiting!” Then I really did. Instantly a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. I sincerely thanked her for giving me 20 great years and honestly wished her well. I have been fine ever since. In fact at 70 years old I’ve never been better at least mentally!
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About 6 months ago me and my wife started to have problems in our life’s ,we started to seek help it just wasnt the right kind of help. These problems grew out of controle . About 3 weeks ago it all came out in the open that my wife had been seeing other men at this point I had lost all hope, God was not in our life and I felt like after 9 years of mariage plus kids , I had given up and did not want to live any longer. My wife stoped me . The next Morning we met for breakfast and talked about what had happened to us to me and to her.
That is when I knew in my heart that it was time for a change. We went to church that Wenesday and I was saved. It has been the most wonderful thing that could have ever happend to me. I thank God every day to be alive now to spend with my family, my kids and wife. It has just been amazing, So happy that Jesus is in my life now. I never knew it could be like this!!